Relationships are one of the most complex things that we have to deal with as human beings. This extends beyond romantic relationships. Romance is by choice. There are relationships that we have by virtue of birth. These can be both a blessing and a cause of tremendous stress. Prayer for new couples is something that is often neglected by the church.
In fact new couples in general are a topic that is seldom spoken about. Although the goal should be marriage, the journey towards that goal is often unguided within the church. Now that you have found someone that you intend to make a life with, or at least explore the idea of making a life with. How do you carry yourself then?
This post focuses on prayer for new couples. Those that have found someone and are not sure if this is the right person yet. Perhaps others who are sure that this is the right person, but life together is proving to be harder than you had anticipated.
Prayer is a powerful tool for relationships. We have seen prayer raise marriages that were considered all but done. Perhaps you are starting to see the value of Spurgeon’s quote, “There are times when solitude is better than society, and silence is wiser than speech. We should be better Christians if we were more alone, waiting upon God, and gathering through meditation on His Word spiritual strength for labour in his service.”
Most people go through life without ever finding that person who makes spending a lifetime together worthwhile. Congratulations on finding that person. In our times, some people don’t even seek this person any longer. Increased rates of divorce have become a source of great discouragement.
Have we forgotten that we are not of this world? Seeing as you are reading this at the start of your relationship, I congratulate you on seeking to build your new relationship on the solid, eternal rock that is Christ.
Guide and direct our relationship
This is where it all starts. Guidance is paramount to the success of all relationships. There are expectations that may be misplaced. We want to impress our intended, so we let things slide under the rug, only for the rug to be pulled from underneath us later. Our prayer is for the Lord to guide and direct our relationship.
We place our relationship into your capable hands. Let it not be by our own wisdom that anything we do is done. Open our eyes to see moments that we stray from your will. Give us the resolve to run back into your arms. May no desires fleshly or otherwise be placed above your will. In Jesus’ name. Amen
Draw us closer to one another
Most of us lead quiet busy lives. It is easy to let this come between us in a new relationship. At the start we make sacrifices that become expectations. As time goes by, some of these are not sustainable. Our loved ones begin to feel neglected. Our prayer is that we would always be conscious of this.
Father, we bless your name for our new relationship. We pray that you would draw us closer, now and forever more. As we build on you, we ask that you would hold us together through every storm that life throws at us. We know there will be storms. Open our eyes to always see that we are one, and to always fight together instead of each other. Draw us closer oh Lord. Amen
Grant us Discernment
Discernment is an invaluable gift in a world that is filled with deceit. Many relationships fall apart due to what has not been said, instead of what has been said. By the same token, many relationships fail because of what has been done instead of what hasn’t.
Lord, teach us discernment. That we would be conscious of the needs of one another. Teach us to fulfil these to the best of our ability in words and in action. Teach is to be proactive in the way we love, and show that we love one another. Open our eyes to each other’s pain points. Show us where we offend unwittingly. Teach us to heal each other where we hurt. In Jesus’ name. Amen
Teach us Faithfulness
This needs no preamble. Most divorces are a direct result of infidelity. When our desires go unchecked, we end up hurting those we love dearly.
Lord make me a man/woman of integrity. Open my eyes to know when they have strayed. Teach me to be disciplined and not to fall to canal desires. In Jesus’ name. Amen
Grant us a spirit of Forgiveness
Matthew 6:14-15 New King James Version (NKJV)
14 “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
We are commanded to forgive and to forget. People tend to forgive, but hold on to what they claim to have forgiven someone for. Which obviously is not forgiveness. Forgiveness is saying, You have wronged me, I have let it go, never to bring it up again. Our prayer is that we would learn to truly forgive one another as a new couple.
Dear Lord, Teach me to forgive my spouse. Open my eyes to anything that I am still holding on to that my spouse has done wrong. Open my eyes to my own faults, and grant me humility to own up to these. In Jesus’ name. Amen
Give us a heart of Thankfulness
1 Thessalonians 5:18 New King James Version (NKJV)
18 in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
Gratitude is the purest form of prayer. These are words that we have always stood by.
Lord I am grateful for my spouse. I am grateful for our relationship. I am grateful for the person that I have become. I am grateful for the person that you will transform me into. In Jesus’ name. Amen
Prayer for couples dating
Father we thank you for bringing us together as a couple. Lord we acknowledge that nothing happens by chance. We commit ourselves into your hands. Direct our footsteps. Make us good stewards of one another, that we would both develop as a result of this relationship. If this is not the right relationship for either one of us, Lord don’t let it drag on. Don’t let this be a time wasted. Protect both of us from exploiting one another for ill will. In Jesus’ name. Amen
A prayer for engaged couples
Father we thank you for bringing us to a time of commitment. Let this be a time of continued growth as we work together a life together. Teach us to see one another as you see us. May I see my spouse as you see them. May my spouse see me as you see them. Lord, show us how to love one another as you would. Whatever is in me that may hinder my relationship, let it be an area of growth and resolution while we are engaged.
You know where I carry hurt. You know where I am weak. Teach me to not have these things work against what we are building together. I pray the same for my spouse. Teach us to support and champion one another’s growth without judgement. One our eyes to see each other’s victory as our own victory. Your word says two become one. In Jesus’ name. Amen